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This is a forum for
singles to submit their thoughts and insights so that we
(singles) can learn from each other. If you have any good tips
or thoughts to share with other singles, please
contact us. Following
are some tips that were submitted by singles:
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The secret to finding
a quality mate is to be a quality person.
Be willing to honestly look inside yourself and develop a
desire to grow to be your best self--physically,
spiritually, intellectually, emotionally and professionally--will
make you very attractive to people.
By the law of
attraction, as we become a quality person, we will
naturally attract the quality mate that we seek. As you
already know, what matters is not who we want but who we can
attract.
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Have you reflected
upon yourself these questions: what is it like to be married
to me, or to be with me 24 hours a day? Is it pleasant and
enjoyable? There is an old saying that we can not make people like us, but we can make
ourselves more likable.
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Smile often...it would
let people feel that you are friendly, pleasant and open. In
general, people like to be people who are happy, friendly and
personable.
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For men, think of the
following 7 B's when going on a date and you will have a
successful date:
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Be a true
gentleman...be kind and caring
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Be honest and
sincere
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Be respectful of
your date
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Be a good
listener (avoid talking too much of yourself)
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Be positive (i.e.
avoid talking about negative things such as your
ex-spouse)
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Be confident
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Be humorous and
fun
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To have good
communication, especially when trying to resolve conflicts,
try to use the word "I" instead of "you", such as "I feel hurt
when..." instead of "you are rude when...". People
usually would not be offended when you express your feelings and
they will be more likely to accept what you say.
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A good way to overcome
loneliness is to serve others. If you find being at home by
yourself is very difficult sometimes, think about serving as a volunteer in
some charity organizations
in your local community that can utilize your skills or talents. Spending time with
people and helping people will uplift you and help you feel
better about yourself. Making a positive difference in other
people's lives is a very
satisfying experience.
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Hang around people who
are positive, happy and fun. They will uplift you and make
you feel happier.
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Develop a circle of
good friends ( single and married) for support or for going out
for fun social activities. Having good close friends can make singles life much easier and fun.
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For men, take some
dance lessons if you like to dance. It will be one of the
best investments that you will ever make. Most women like to
dance and most men don't know how to dance. So if you are a
good dancer, you will have a great competitive edge over the
other men:o). It may also help you and your future spouse
build a closer relationship as you both enjoy the same
hobby.
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For men, when someone
asks you for a dance, please understand that it may take a
lot of courage for that person to come up and ask you. So be
considerate and kind in your decision.
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..........more to come
later...
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